By Angel Yaki
So how do you know when positivity is becoming toxic in your environment/ within you? Has someone ever said the following phrases to you;
"You'll be fine."
"Just be positive"
"Your bad mood is spoiling the fun"
How
did that make you feel? Did it do anything to disperse your bad mood?
Probably not. The phrases above are common when positivity is forced
upon you. It's good to be positive, yes. However, it's also good to sit
with and experience your negative emotions as well. You can't be happy
24/7 every single day. No!
Below are five (5) indications that you are experiencing
toxic positivity:
(1) You're masking your true
feelings; This is extremely common. You're sad but instead of showing it
and seeking help, you put on a smile and pretend it's alright. Some
people would say it means you're strong, but in reality, you're just
destroying your mental health because with time, all of that sadness
could build up and lead to depression. Seek help and comfort when you're
sad. Do not be tempted to form woman of steel.
(2)
Brushing off problems rather than facing them; Let's assume you went
through a breakup and instead of allowing yourself to feel all the
emotions that come with it, you brush it off because there are people
who have no house and you do. Quite alright, people are on worse
situations than you are, but that doesn't mean you don't have the right
to be sad about anything. Face your emotions. By ignoring/suppressing
them, you're only extending the time it'll take for you to heal.
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(3)
Minimizing people's experiences with quotes; This is one thing I really
hate. How can I tell you I lost everything I had, hoping for comfort
and you tell me, " There is a tiger in all of us, aspire to Maguire." Is
all well? I know tough people last more than tough times. Comfort your
friends when they find the courage to come to you.
(4)
Shaming those who are not positive at the moment; The third phrase I
gave in the beginning is an example. "You're spoiling the vibe with this
your bad mood." "You're always sad as if it's done serious." Don't say
such a thing... ever! The fact that it wouldn't hurt you if you were in
their shoes doesn't mean you should shut them down. You're their friend
for a reason.
(5) Guilt
for feeling 'negative' emotions; "Everyone was so happy and now I've
spoilt it." You shouldn't feel like this. You shouldn't feel bad for
being sad or angry. They're emotions as well. You have to feel them as
much as you feel joy or excitement. Don't ever feel bad for experiencing
'negative' emotions.
All
in all, don't force yourself to look happy because of what others would
say or think. Don't shut down people because they're unhappy at the
moment. Mental health is very important.
Do you do any of these things? Do you know anyone who does? Tell us in the comments!
Do you do any of these things? Do you know anyone who does? Tell us in the comments!
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