How To Stop Being Sad [Christian Edition]

How To Stop Being Sad [Christian Edition]


By Obafemi Grace

You've felt this way probably a zillion times. Of course,you know that you're a Christian,and everyone expects you to be 100% happy all the time. But,you think that they cannot understand you. You don't even that is feasible. No one knows how heavy your heart is. How there's this indescribable feeling at the pit of your stomach. No one sees the tears shed in corners. 

They don't see the droplets of tears on your notepads. They can't hear how your heart laments. They're blind to the fact that your heart is on the verge of tearing into pieces. They don't know the battles you face at night. How you cry yourself to sleep every night. They don't see how you shed tears when they leave the room,or when the lights come off. They only see made-up, happy appearances. For them, it's inconceivable to think that the ever easy going,jovial you isn't you.

They don't even know that you're not a cheerful person, all of that is for show. Or,maybe you are. But,all the negative feelings and sadness is taking that away from you, gradually. And you feel no one can relate to that,so it's all bottled up. It's also hard for you to open up to anyone because you don't want to dent the image that has been created in people minds, about you. For you, everyday you battle with keeping a smile on your face. 

Are you tired of feeling this way? Tired of slipping in between moods? Have you had enough of tears on the ground and on your pillow? Tired of switching personalities? Tired of the pretense that everything is fine? Tired of distancing yourself from everyone else? Tired of having your days filled with dark clouds even when the sun is out? Tired of feeling so alone like a child lost with no home? Well,here are some tips to help you let go. 

• Talk to Jesus:
You know,it's one of the easiest things to do. He understands, perfectly,whatsoever the issue may be. You know the most joyful part? Christ has once been human. He sees those tears you cry. He knows what it must have felt to be dejected. He has even cried before. ( Jn 11:35). 
He has been flesh and blood too,so one thing that you're passing through must have been something that He passed through too. He knows what emotions are. You don't even have to say 'Eternal Rock of Ages, Immortal God, El-shaddai, Everlasting King of Glory',etc. You can speak to him like an elder brother. Do not hold it back. You can talk to him, anytime,any day. I promise you'll feel better.
'He Understands
He was alone, left by his Friends
Foxes have Holes,
He had no where to go
No Place to lay his head
So if anyone knows
He Understands
He has felt everything that you have felt
He has lived through it all.' 
He understands,by Chandler Moore.

• Forgive:
Most times,one of the reasons why you feel sad is because you've had so much pain ,hurt and you don't let go. When you don't forgive someone,you only hurt yourself the more. It increases the emotional baggage that you carry around. It's like you've locked you and that person in a cage. Plus,Christ isn't happy when you don't forgive. In fact,He implores us to forgive people,no matter how painful and difficult that may be. 

Apart from forgiving others,you also need to forgive yourself. We all can't do without making mistakes. That's what helps us grow. Forgive yourself. Don't hate you. Forgive that person that molested you. Forgive your parents when they accuse you wrongly. Forgive people even when they betray you. Forgive church members,if they've hurt you.

Forgive your classmates. When you hold on to those feelings, you're the only one it hurts. It makes your heart freer. Unforgiveness also poses as a stumbling block to our prayers,because if Jesus had commanded us to do so,and we're having a hard time doing that,it means we're being disobedient. Even the Bible says that it's a sin if you know the good thing that you're supposed to do,and you don't do it. So,dear friend,Forgive!!!

'But when you let it go
You can feel it in your soul
Like nothing's gonna hold you down again
And the light drowns out the dark
And there′s a love inside your heart
Like something,
If you're looking for a better way to live
Oh, Forgive'.
     Forgive,by Nik Day.
• Choose to be happy intentionally:
Like the popular quote says, 'Happiness is free.' Make up your mind to be happy,always. Remember the joy of the Lord is your strength. Even if you see no outer reason to be, having your own salvation is enough to instill joy in you. The fact that you're saved in one beautiful thing to be happy about,in fact joyful about.

Also,make sure that your happiness doesn't solely depend on someone else,or on compliments,gestures,acts of kindness and so on,because what happens when you don't get them? Will you remain sad all day? Another way is to look back at the little testimonies. If you have a journal,you can go back and look at all those beautiful memories that mean a lot to you. Be deliberate about you being happy.

 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Philippians 4:8 KJV

• Be careful of the things that your heart receives:
When we just allow our hearts to receive any thing (i.e anything can go in,and anything can go out), it makes us ordinary people. There are times that nothing will be wrong with you,but just listening to a particular song is enough to dampen your mood. There are lots of triggers,that can pose as books, songs, posts on social media, videos,quotes,etc. The Bible tells us to guard our hearts,for from it flows the springs of life. (Pro 4:23).

If there's a particular song or something that triggers your sadness,then please,stay away from it. Don't let the sad thoughts of others seep in and corrupt you, because energy can be transferred.Be careful about the things you watch, read or listen to. Also,when you have negative thoughts,do you dwell on them or allow them to spoil your day and ruin your beautiful smile?So my dear friend,guard your heart seriously. An always remember that you're in charge of all thoughts.

The human heart is easily swayed
And often betrayed at the hand of emotion
You dare not leave the outcome to chance
You must choose in advance
Or live with the agony
Such needless tragedy
Guard your heart, guard your heart.
~ Guard your heart,by Steve Green

• Remember that you're not alone:
One of the things that happen to us when we're down is thinking that we're without love,or that we're the only ones passing through what we're passing through. That's a big lie,dear. One thing to do is remember that you're surrounded with people that love you,and most importantly,you have a saviour that loves you extremely.

You're not above love,or affection. You deserve every other good thing. You're not broken to the extent that you don't deserve love. Also, always remember that God loves you.
And the LORD, he it is that doth go before thee; he will be with thee, he will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed.

Deuteronomy 31:8 KJV

You're not alone for I, I am here
Let me wipe away your every fear
My child, I've never left your side
I have seen you through the darkest night
Your darkest night
And I'm the One who's loved you all your life
All your life .
~ You're not alone,by Meredith Andrews.

• Open up:
Like a quote says; 'saying yes, opening up, and loving: these are the keys that will unlock the prison door.' Opening up, talking about your feelings and sharing them is a beautiful way of letting go. Finding people that can relate with what you're feeling makes it a wholesome feeling.

However,when you try to do this,make sure you do it among people that understand you, and can relate to it. Do I need add, they should be believers too. (So,you know that the counsel that you're getting is a godly one). Talk to people and have vulnerable moments with them.
"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." (1 Thess 5:11).

Another way to open up is to write. If you feel you can't talk to people yet,you can write about your feelings. Doing so helps you forget them quickly. Journal. Whenever you begin to feel sad,look for ways to let go. Cry out,if need be. It's all part of the healing process. Talk about your feelings.I know it feels like you're running out of faith

'Cause it's so hard to keep believing
But if I can bring a smile back to your face
If for a moment, you'll forget all about it
I'll be the angel by your side
I will get you through the day 
I'll be the strength you can't provide on your own
'Cause when you're down and out of time
And you think you've lost the fight
Let me be the angel
The angel by your side 
~ Angel by your side,by Francesca Battistelli.

With all the tips mentioned above,I pray that you find your way to being the completely jovial person that you used to be. Of course you can take baby steps, that's alright. And remember,it's okay not to be okay, sometimes. Don't try to hide it. Love leaves room for you to speak up.
          Cheers,to becoming better at managing your emotions.

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